*Dr. Elizabeth Cilenti contributed to Nehal Aggarwal’s thebump.com article, published on September 25, 2023.
Everything to Know About the 4 Month Sleep Regression
Any parent dealing with four month sleep regression will tell you itβs no laughing matter. Here, experts break down everything you need to know.
Baby is finally sleeping through the night, you have naps down to a science and youβre finally feeling a little bit like your old, rested self again. But just as youβre celebrating babyβs fourth month of life, something happens to bring you right back down to reality: Your sleeping beauty is back to their former partying ways, waking up multiple times throughout the night. What gives? Itβs called the four month sleep regression, and itβs here to ruin the good thing youβve got going on. Fortunately, it doesnβt last forever. Below, experts break down what to know about this stage and how to get through it.
What Is the 4 Month Sleep Regression?
Four-month sleep regression is one of the βfine printsβ of parenting you donβt pay attention to it until it happens to you. It βrefers to a set of sleep challenges that arise in babies around the age of 4 months old, even if they were sleeping well previously,β says Jillian Thistel, a certified pediatric sleep consultant and founder of Twinkling Stars Pediatric Sleep Consulting in Ontario, Canada. βThese sleep challenges often seem to happen suddenly, leaving parents confused about whatβs happened to their great little sleeper.β In a nutshell, the four month sleep regression can βreduce the total amount of sleep babies (and parents) are getting per day,β adds Elizabeth Cilenti, MD, MPH, a pediatrician with Northern Virginia Family Practice. Moreover, despite its name, the four month sleep regression can start even earlier (i.e. at 3 months) or later, (i.e. at 5 months). In fact, sleep regressions can actually keep popping up throughout babyhood and childhood, Cilenti adds.
What Causes 4 Month Sleep Regression?
The 4-month-old sleep regression leaves many parents bewildered. The most common cause behind babyβs four month sleep regression is biological changes in sleep cycles. Newborns experience two stages of sleep: active (also known as REM) and quiet sleep, Thistel explains. βAs babies get close to the four-month mark, they start to develop their circadian rhythm, hormones such as melatonin, and their stages of sleep mature and start functioning like adult sleep cycles.β Essentially, this means baby now experiences four different stages of sleep, and they start to spend more time in non-REM, notes Cilenti. It can take some time for babies to get used to this change, resulting in disrupted sleep routines and the dreaded four month sleep regression.
Another culprit behind babyβs four month sleep regression? Babyβs physical and cognitive development, including hitting new milestones and growth spurts. The four month sleep regression may be taking a toll now, but itβs ultimately a good thing. βItβs a normal part of the process of growing,β Cilenti says. Occasionally, changes to routines and environments, as well as illness can also cause disrupted sleep, she adds.
So will all babies experience the four-month sleep regression? While most babies do experience these biological sleep cycle changes, not all will be impacted by it in the same way. βSome little ones may experience a whole range of sleep challenges, while others may hardly experience sleep disruptions,β Thistel says.
4 Month Sleep Regression Signs
Wondering how to spot those four month sleep regression symptoms? Most of the signs of four month sleep regression deal with sudden sleep challenges, so youβll be able to tell pretty quickly if baby is experiencing this stage. βThese signs can seem to start out of nowhere, even for babies who were sleeping well previously,β Thistel says. According to Thistel and Cilenti, some of these four-month sleep regression signs include:
- Trouble falling asleep for naps or at night
- Shorter naps and less sleep during the day
- Frequently waking throughout the night
- Extra fussiness and restlessness around bedtime
- Increased crying when waking up
- Wanting to be held for sleep
How Long Does the 4 Month Sleep Regression Last?
Once baby kicks into four month sleep regression mode, the big question is: How long does it last? As we know, all babies are different, and how long sleep regression lasts will vary depending on your baby and their particular sleep situation. Cilenti says the four month sleep regression may last anywhere from a few days to a few weeks.
However long the phase, Thistel encourages parents to use it to help baby build healthy sleep foundations and habitsβsuch as learning how to self-sootheβto help get them through the sleep disruptions. You might be tempted to change babyβs sleep schedule, but she encourages parents to resist this urge. βFocusing on solid sleep foundations and consistency is key,β she adds.
4 Month Sleep Regression Tips: How to Get Through It
Once you realize baby is going through the dreaded four month sleep regression, your parental instincts to solve the problem shift into high gear, and you might be desperate for some four month sleep regression tips. Donβt worry, there are things you can do to help baby and save your sanity. For how to get through four\ ] month sleep regression, check out these tips from Cilenti and Thistel:
- Establish a consistent bedtime routine: Babies thrive off having a regular bedtime and naptime routine, Cilenti saysβand she advises parents to start baby on a sleep routine before the four-month mark. Use babyβs wake windows and sleepy cuesβyawning or rubbing their eyesβto help determine babyβs bedtime and routine schedule. Incorporating things like a bath, story, bottle and bed can all help baby know what to expect and when. Keep in mind, babyβs regular schedule may be disrupted during the four month sleep regression. You may wonder if you should shift their schedule, but following their sleepy cues is still a great way to ensure theyβre going to sleep at the right times rather than getting overtired, notes Thistel.
- Make babyβs room dark: Get baby to associate darkness with sleep. This means making sure babyβs room is dark, quiet, calm and free of screens and other distractions when itβs time to go to sleep, Cilenti says. If baby wakes up in the middle of the night, theyβll realize itβs still dark and time to sleep.
- Put baby to bed while sleepy but awake: If youβre giving baby a bottle or breastfeeding and notice theyβre getting drowsy, itβs best to put baby to bed rather than wait until your infant is totally passed out. It helps them learn how to self-soothe and get to sleep without your help. βItβs a skill babies need to practice in order to learn,β says Cilenti.
- Give baby a few minutes if they wake up: Similarly, donβt rush to baby right away if they wake up in the middle of the night, advises Cilenti. Instead, she says to give baby a few minutes to self-soothe (as long as thereβs no emergency), and see if they can fall back asleep on their own. If you do go to them in the middle of the night, make sure itβs all business. Try not to turn the lights on and talk to baby too much to help them understand itβs time to sleep rather than time to wake up.
- Focus on babyβs overall health: The lack of predictable sleep patterns may be frustrating during the four month sleep regression stage, but Thistel says to keep focused on ensuring babyβs properly fed, learning and practicing new skills during the day and otherwise healthy and happy. This is also a great time to practice different ways that are effective in soothing and calming baby, she adds.
- Be kind to yourself: βIt takes years for childrenβs sleep cycles to develop, and they donβt fully mirror adult patterns until theyβre around 5 years old,β Cilenti says. Whatβs more, changes to sleep wonβt be linear, may be hard to predict and will often be beyond parentsβ control. That said, sleep deprivation can take a real toll on your own well-being. βMake a plan for how to take care of yourself, and remember to give yourself some extra self-compassion during these sleep regressions,β she says. Above all else, know this is just a phase, and baby will move past it eventually.
When to See a Pediatrician About 4 Month Sleep Regression
While four month sleep regression is usually nothing to worry about, Thistel says there are a few signs that warrant a call to your pediatrician, including if baby is:
- Experiencing discomfort or pain
- Snoring or mouth breathing while sleeping
- Sick or parents believe baby might be sick
- Baby has a fever or appears to be waking up from pain, which could be sign of an ear infection
- Losing any previously achieved milestones
Along with these symptoms, Cilenti encourages parents to reach out if theyβre worried about babyβs feeding and growth, or have any concerns regarding babyβs development overall. βIβve had parents bring in the baby worried that theyβre missing an ear infection, thinking that there must be something [wrong because] babyβs suddenly waking up every two or three hours crying,β she says. βJust having your pediatrician check over baby, and knowing that they look healthy and are growing well can give you peace of mind and help you to sleep better.β
Thistel agrees: βIf a parent suspects that something more is going on for their little one, I always encourage them to trust their instincts. Itβs always important to consult their doctor or pediatrician to rule out any medical issues or other potential challenges that may be impacting sleep.β
The good news is that 4-month-old sleep regression doesnβt last forever, and eventually itβll pass. The four month sleep regression may disappear as quickly as it came on, or fade slowly, Cilenti says. In any case, youβll know the sleep regression has passed when baby starts to go back to their usual and more predictable sleep patterns. While there are more developmental milestones just around the corner waiting to create their own havoc, for now try to sleep tight and donβt let the four month sleep regression bug bite!